seeing ugliness as an internal trait is freeing

so the other day i was playing this, admittedly kinda dumb, vn about a girl who you date. you find out she's actually a horrific, gorey and slimey monster, but has human level intelligence and consciousness and all that. there are two endings:

1. you love her despite her ugliness, and you live happily ever after together
2. you don't love her and she kills you

and i begun thinking about how we think about ugliness and it's relation to love.

for example, online it's really common to see people only dating based off looks, especially when dating apps offer no other alternative information apart from a 150 character description box and a few dropdowns. but what if the love of your life, the person who would unconditionally understand and support you as you would them, was "ugly"? and you never met them purely because of that?

after i played that game, i began to look up pictures of "ugly" people. go on "ugly" forums. and really, i don't think i could ever refuse to love someone only because of their looks. if you want to connect with people deeply, there would be no reason to.

i have a few family members that, when we travel or watch tv together, will say things like, "my god, he's fat!" or "look at how much make up she has on, it must be layers thick!" and things like that. but i've never seen someone and had the compulsion to complain about the way they look. personally, i think that's a really bad way to think about the world, because you automatically close yourself off from so many possibilities. i hope this doesn't sound like virtue signalling ahaha,,

i think that everyone could benefit from only seeing ugliness as a personality trait rather than a visual problem. because not only does it benefit the people around you, but you yourself can become happier from being more empathetic and less judgemental. i think.

thank you for reading,

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